Dating someone shorter than you

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The biggest height difference any of us experiences in life is the one we have with our parents growing up. When we were small and they were tall, we felt taken care of and loved, or deprived and judged, or both. But none of that baggage is insurmountable, Fitzpatrick notes, particularly if both parties are willing to talk about it. Do they listen to and understand each other?

But height aside, all women in general have gone on a crusade, fueled by the body-positive movement, to ask men to stop being so dang shallow. I feel like this helps to keep our general expectations in a more reasonable place to begin with. Then ask yourself this: If you have, then you should extend the same courtesy to any guys that are shorter than you that are interested in taking you out for a date. I am not writing this to persuade you to jump into a relationship with some jerk who has short-man syndrome to the nth degree — those guys that just cannot deal with women that are taller than them.

Like all of us, men also need to work on their insecurities and bring a healthy self-esteem and a good dose of confidence to the table before they are ready to be in a healthy relationship with somebody else. If they are secure and comfortable enough with themselves to ask you out on a date, then you should most definitely give it a shot.

My older sister, Amy is a perfect example. I will never forget when she called to tell me that her now-husband had asked her on a date. They had mutual friends, so they had met in person several times before he decided to ask her out.

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I could tell she seemed really uncomfortable and unsure, but at the same time also excited. Besides her, I know so many other tall women that have dated or married men the same height or shorter than them, including myself. So, what if dating was like the show The Voice? This concept forces the coaches to tune into one thing and one thing only: What if you were forced to truly get to know someone first, before their height was revealed?

In Defense of Dating Shorter Men

Are you afraid people are going to laugh or make comments? Don't let other people's pettiness stop you from finding happiness. If you truly can't get over the fact that she's taller than you, you may have some soul-searching to do.

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Ask yourself why it matters to you and if it truly makes a difference in the quality of your connection with someone. If she turns you down because you're not tall enough, then forget about her.

If she's not willing to see beyond a superficial difference, you're better off finding someone else. You may think it's cute or cheeky to tease her about her height--opening with a line like "What's the weather like up there? Make it clear you're interested in getting to know her and her personality and that you're not hung up on something superficial like her height. One tall lady suggests treating a tall woman's height as you would a woman with an ample chest--even if it's part of her appeal, you would never walk up to a woman with large breasts and ask about her bra size.

Then you can tell her how her long legs are super sexy.

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Let her know you think it's an asset, but it's not something you spend a lot of time worrying about. The most attractive characteristic of a man or woman is self-confidence and feeling good about who you are. If you are insecure about your height and constantly remind her of how much taller she is, or if you ask her not to wear heels because it makes you feel uncomfortable, you're going to look like you're not secure with who you are. It may also make her feel like you think something is wrong with her. If you're a short guy and you're comfortable with your tall lady wearing heels, it will be clear that you feel good about yourself and your relationship, and that you have a great connection that is greater than stupid taboos.

Don't try to always stand somewhere so you're taller than her--like on a curb or one step above her on an escalator. She will notice what you are doing and it will suggest to her that you are not comfortable with yourself or the fact that she's taller. The height difference is not something to just put up with, it's another quality to appreciate in your amazing partner. Once she knows you like her for her awesome personality, let her know that you think her height is just as cool as her wicked sense of humor, her ability to quote your favorite movies, her incredible math skills, and all the other things that make her special.

Compliment her height and her long legs. Remind her that her stature only adds to her appeal. Treat her like a lady. Most women will say they prefer a taller man because it makes them feel more feminine since she's probably heard most of her life that to be bigger than a man in any way is a turn-off. Put your arm around her when you're sitting next to each other. Don't discourage her from wearing heels if she wants to. Be assertive but not rude or controlling.

Make the first move and kiss her first. Or why not take a turn as the little spoon?