The color of a person's skin is accidental to their humanity. That means that God considers all flavors of humans equal in His eyes. The problem comes when man further divides mankind to fit their concept of rightness. I live in the south and am cuban by birth, however, I married a white woman born in Alabama. Her family lives mainly in Louisiana which is still highly racially divided. Her family attempted to sabotage our relationship but our love for each other outweighted her family's objections.
We have been married for 30 years now but it took her family a few years to accept us as we are and there are still a few that accepted it because they didn't really have a choice. Look, your parents are worried about keeping up with the Joneses and what others will think even if they deny it. The problem is theirs and theirs alone. Their concern is not biblical and actually goes against God's creation. They will have to realize this by themselves. My suggestion would be to definitely talk to a pastor and preferably have your parents talk to a pastor.
It would be highly beneficial if your family would seek guidance as a family unit. I will be praying for you and your family. Oct 21, 3. Well, Jesus was no racist. That I know for sure. He would rebuke parents that taught their children racial supremacy.
Your sister and Craig should be allowed to carry on with their relationship.
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Friends who find fault with that are no friends at all. Relationships between people from different races do challenge parents and others, who have been raised by parents who support racial supremacy. I'm reminded of Galatians 5: I think your parents need to realise that God loves us as His children, regardless of race - and they need to do that as well, or ultimately explain to Him one day why they think that a black husband for their daughter was a bad idea. I wouldn't want to be present in such a conversation Oct 21, 4. Oct 21, 5. Your parents say that they arent..
As a black woman I have only been in interracial relationships up to now I finally at 21 have my first black boyfriend and it is a culture shock for me. However I never had issues about race in my interracial relationships This is not of God. Oct 21, 6. Your parents say they aren't racist yet they are marking someone as 'different' and 'unacceptable' because of their race. That makes a racist. I feel for the young man and your sister. One thing that came to mind is that my mother once said to me that she would have no problem if I was to marry a man of a particular culture we were discussing but it might not be easy because in that culture you didn't just marry the man, you married the whole family and I wouldn't have as much say over my children and living arrangements if I married into that culture.
Could you parents have cultural concerns that your sister may not know what she is getting into i. If the two cultures are very similar, and it's more than wanting your sister to be aware of how marrying into such a culture will effect her life, then I would suggest your parents could invite the young man home for dinner and get to know him as a person.
Obviously appearances are important to your parents. In this case, that stems from their own insecurities.
In light of that, it may become necessary for your sister to do her own thing and continue to date this guy, potentially marry him, in spite of what the parents think. Hopefully they will come around in time. Oct 21, 7. Oct 22, 8. Listen, there is absolutely nothing wrong with your sister's relationship.
I am a white guy with a black girl. My skin colour is white, I look like your average Caucasian, but both my parents are Hispanic; from Colombia. My girlfriend is Jamaican. My parents were not comfortable with the idea of me dating a black girl, my father much more than my mother.
Me and my girlfriend have been happily together for two and a half years now.
Although my father doesn't like the idea, by having her around, he's slowly come to accept her. The blind discrimination he used to hold against her for being black has slowly faded and he's much more accepting of her. Your parents may not accept the relationship, but a few years down the line, they'll have to change their views instead of excommunicating your sister. Something society created to discriminate those who come from different places, and those who look different.
Usually, when there's something you don't understand, you're afraid of it; and the easiest way to act on your fears is to discriminate. I hope someday your father accepts Craig, and I hope your sister has a lasting and good relationship with Craig. As a result of being with my girlfriend, i've come to learn A LOT about her culture, and she's learned a lot about my culture; and I've learned how to respect, and appreciate west indians better.
There's nothing more beautiful than accepting someone despite all their differences; I couldn't be happier with anyone else than my girlfriend and we're from two complete opposite spectrums: Oct 22, 9. Your parents are wrong. Unfortunately, I don't see how they would change. And the more this relationship progresses, the more her boyfriend would have to deal with them.
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And she would eventually have to choose between him and her own parents. Relationships shouldn't tear a family apart like this. Oct 22, Brother, give your parents a few questions to ponder: If no, then why did He create so many different races, colors, nations, in the world we see today? He meant for a blend. Imagine the world is with flowers of different colors. And animals with different colors. Isn't it lovely this way? What a boring place this would be???
God is the best of Creators, and He is so beautiful in creation itself. This is not any intention to discriminate any color, but for your parents to see what pigments do to the skin, if colors matter to them. Skin color is determined primarily by the amount and type of melanin , the pigment in the skin. Dark skin melanin protects against ultraviolet light; this light causes mutations in skin cells, which in turn may cause skin cancers. Light-skinned persons have about a tenfold greater risk of dying from skin cancer under equal sunlight radiation of UV-A rays from destroying the essential folic acid , derived from B vitamins.
Folic acid or folate is needed for the synthesis of DNA in dividing cells and folate deficiency in pregnant women are associated with birth defects. So it is seen here that the pigments serve a purpose in the skin protection. By right there is more advantage in being black if people are so racists. Besides, God made us all equal. But because the world has too much racists today, despite we are taught to be equal, God somehow intervenes to teach us.
Look at the most popular stars. Michael Jackson was black. In fact the list goes on for many great talents who are well known being black. I would like to state here, that Indians were looked down upon because of the same "black" color. But in reality, Indians are famous for their intelligence today. They have the best doctors, lawyers.
Its a fact we know in my country that we pay so high for their services. There is nothing that is not given fairly in talents and knowledge, but God spread them all perfectly well among nations, despite of race and color. The reason behind your parent's insecurity is their minds claiming they are "different" physically.
Well my family loves black people simply because they are more family oriented and live closely knit as a loving community. I believe the world needs people from both sides. In my observation, without substantial effort to curtail it, it seems that intermarriage can result in very rapid deterioration of cultural values of course especially on the "immigrant" side. It can take as little as one generation to eradicate all but traces of cultural heritage. One or two more generations, and you might have to kiss those original immigrant values goodbye.
I guess I just don't look forward to a day far into the future where all these fascinating races and cultures have vanished from the earth as some futurists predict. The question for these "preservationists" is: How do we protect and preserve our culture and heritage without placing ourselves above others In my opinion, that is our unique challenge.
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I personally still have no problem dating outside of my race. However, now, I have a new-found understanding and respect for those that do. I feel for those in the middle of this struggle with their parents - I can't imagine it's easy. It's just that, for the first time, I see things from the perspective of the parents as well Yes, I am surprised to find myself in support of those who do not approve of interracial and intercultural dating.
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I have a compassion for them that I didn't previously, and I support their right to feel the way they do. That, I definitely don't support. Do you have any experience with this? I'm curious if anybody's parents didn't approve at first, but changed their stance over time? Or about those who have succesfully joined and preserved two cultures?
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