Of course, a real man should man up, so to speak. This means that he'll always be there for you, he'll always be willing and able to take care of you if you need that, and he'll suck it up when he has to do something that he doesn't exactly enjoy. Yup, he's pretty much the best because he just does this stuff without a second thought and he never, ever complains. But he never lets you know, so you think that's pretty amazing and you love him even more for it. A real man will totally cook for you, clean the apartment if you live together or help you clean your apartment if you live separately , and do other things around the house that people consider feminine and not masculine activities.
He won't care if people think that men shouldn't cook and clean. He wants to because he loves you and he wants to help you out. He wouldn't dream of making you cook and clean for him all the time -- he knows that's super sexist and he would never want to make you feel like he expected that stuff from you. If a friend teases him for cooking you dinner, he just tells the guy to shut up. Spoken like a real man! The best relationships are the ones where both people are totally and completely equal and there's no following gender stereotypes of any kind.
Doesn't matter who does certain chores based on gender, each person does their part in the relationship regardless. If your boyfriend doesn't care that you're more of a workaholic than him and that you probably make more money than he does, he's a real man because he's not letting traditional gender stuff bug him. He could honestly care less. He doesn't think about things this way and just wants you to succeed as much as you possibly can. He would never make you feel bad for working hard or caring about your career as much as you care about him. A real man is going to be fun When he has a crappy day, he doesn't take it out on you or anyone else -- he still makes an effort to honor his commitments and he forces himself to be in a good mood.
He makes anything fun, even if you're just buying groceries or doing something horrible like cleaning your apartment ugh. You really want a boyfriend who can turn the ordinary into a total magical adventure and a real man will do this. He won't bug you about spending your Sunday meal prepping for the rest of the week -- he'll make up cute songs and help you out while you're chopping vegetables and making tomato sauce.
A real man isn't afraid to get goofy sometimes, and he'll turn any frown of yours totally upside down. He won't be scared to look silly because to him, the greatest feeling in the universe is making you smile and making you laugh. He pretty much lives to make you laugh. You won't believe how fun everyday stuff can be and how much you can enjoy another person's company.
Plus there's nothing wrong with being goofy -- and this kind of guy will definitely bring out the kid in you and bring out your goofy side. You totally deserve to release some tension sometimes and chill out -- life is stressful enough. Especially the bad stuff! You're not a robot and he knows that. He doesn't expect you to be perfect, but it's your flaws that make you perfect in his eyes.
He'll now that you're not perfect and he'll think it's cool that you have flaws because there really isn't a person on this planet that doesn't have flaws. More than this, he actually wants to! From the moment you two met, he wanted to know every single thing that was to know about you. He isn't afraid to get to know you. He wants to get on that deeper level with you. Yup, even the most humiliating moments of your childhood, and even the deep dark secrets that you never tell anyone or the stuff that you think is deep and dark but really isn't that bad. He'll be your best friend, confidante and soul mate, and he'll make sure to tell you everything about him in return, too.
A real man takes your relationship extremely seriously and really wants to get to you know as a person, deep down to your core. He wants to know what kind of sense of humor you have, what makes you crazy, what makes you tick, what shows you love, what music you listen to on the way to work, etc. He doesn't consider your career wins a total loss for him. This is not only romantic and sweet and amazing but proves he's a real man and nothing less. He would rather die than seem unsupportive. He always asks questions about your job and wants to know as much as he can, and he's always there to help you out when you're dealing with a tricky work situation, no matter what it is.
He's always cheering you on and convincing you to try even harder and work even harder and make all your dreams come true. It's really awesome when you realize that a boyfriend can do this and you don't have to make yourself seem smaller just so he can feel super manly. He doesn't want that, and neither do you, so you've basically got the best guy around. When you date a real man for the first time in basically forever, you never, ever want to let him go.
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There is a huge difference between slutty and sexy. Keep that in mind. As if everyone is supposed to magically know that YOU are dating a particular woman. Especially while you are probably slobbering over other women still wearing short skirts and showing off their cleavage. U are obviously NOT the man they are speaking of in this aritcle, so dont make your insecurities blatant for everyone to see. Honestly, you really have no right to tell a women what she can or cannot wear…you could suggest. You should be able to move on and let it go.
Would you really want to cause ruckus in a relationship over something relatively small anyway? Any woman who has self respect, and respect for her man, is going to dress accordingly. A real man will learn from his mistakes and false illusions. By visualizing the future, you and your lady might be perfect for each other, does two negatives make a positive relationship? If so, then you are doing ok, you might have just visited the wrong webpage here.
You were done in your first sentence here friend. Hang in there things might change for ya! I think a great number of you missed the point. No one told you to go after the most inappropriate woman at the bar. Given the choice, most men gravitate towards the cleavage, rather than find the more subdued lady sitting in the corner. Change who you are and you may achieve better results from your relationships.
Where is your respect the woman you claim ownership over. If you are worried about her ability to say no, then perhaps she should examine her current relationship. You think the only reason a girl would be hit on is if she looks sexy or revealing? Notice how your mind automatically went there? And you do sound insecure and controlling. Exactly the man that no one wants. My opinion is that a real woman would not WANT to attract other men, and would care about my opinions on her address, as much as I care about hers. That could be worded differently, in a way that is not demanding.
Couples should hold each other accountable on this. I have two things to say in response to your post: If you have a lovely lady, then she could be covered from her neck to her toes and still be approached. I do agree with you that a woman who has any self-respect and respect for her man will not dress in a way that makes her man uncomfortable.
In which case, it would be safe to assume that he was not attempting to be disrespectful and the situation could easily be fixed by stepping in, with a cool, calm and collected demeanor and making your position known. Any disrespect after that would of course warrant more extreme measures. So a real man wear french cuffed shirts, bow-ties, Italian cut suits, smokes cigars, drinks cognac, gets straight razor shaves and still finds time to objectify women while she poses like a stripper on the bed.
The images of what real men are belie your descriptions of what you write a real man should be. Take for example the picture of the woman on the bed, her legs outstretched, back and neck arched, she is meant to be seductive and attractive. She has been posed to accentuate her legs, breasts and curves while the man is faceless, a virtual piece of furniture. The entire focus of the picture is the on the woman and her assets. As a writer you have to consider the whole page as part of your message, and not expect your readers to rely only on the body text. I had the same response as Trevor, particularly re: Remember, the human brain works first with images.
I was about to write the same as Trevor. Your piece is a bit of a miss for me for three reasons: Men like this do seem to be a rare breed. I find the gratuitous portrayal of tobacco products as glamorous offensive. You should really think about your images before you post them. I see now the misconception that comes from it. Are you just now learning how to put words into a sentence?
Unlike many women I know i do not over think relationships, including men I date, so I was catching everything you were throwing out, however I do agree with the influential amount of power that the pictures will have over the words. I wish more men did dress that way! It sure beats a man in a wife beater with a dip in his mouth and a bud light…gross.
I wish more women dressed and acted like these pictures portray! It sure beats sweat pants with a loose fitting sweater, gross. Please kindly return the two minutes it took me to read this article. There are so many trolls around here, geez! Keep up the good work. This article was straight to the point, not patriarchal-sounding and a great reminder. How do you feel about men who are in sexually active relationships that watch pornography on a regular basis?
I have found over time that men who take offense to that kind of article are most often the perpetrators of unacceptable behavior in a relationship. They get offended, and defensive because they see themselves in your words and are in total denial. I live with a man who is the complete opposite of your article.
It makes for a heart wrenching, emotional hell to live in. I wish I could find someone who you describe as being the gentleman. Why wait for someone else? That changes with time Andrew…. Unfortunately that lesson usually needs to be learned the hard way. Every woman I know, regardless of age, wants a man like this. However, both me and my friends have chosen guys that were the opposite several times. I like this article very much. Maybe the photos were not the best choice for this article but great list anyway. And French Cuffs are nice on a guy — nothing wrong with good taste and style.
Pair that with a polite charming man and he is a keeper. Kudos for not making any of these about some cultural gender machismo standard. The only one I might take a teensy bit of exception to is the one about a man being calm and cool. While I agree that a good man will not have a short fuse especially with his partner or be dramatically overreactive to every little thing, as someone who is emotionally wired, I find it difficult to expect anyone to have to be calm and cool.
So, maybe a better way to state it would be that a real man is able to achieve emotional balance and a healthy combination of thinking and feeling? What can I say? Oh, and especially thank you for the first item on the list. I have curves, yes. These curves are also murder on my back and spine. Stop reading too fast, Niki! I too strive, yet often fail, to live up to principles such as these.
I would say that I adhere to most of them, most of the time, and always try to improve. It is important that we have these types of discussions and set standards for how we ought to behave. One of my great faults, and one that I am currently working on, is taking criticism gracefully and with patience. So coming from someone who is currently striving for, and working on, better methods in the face of criticism, I commend you on your consistently patient and polite responses to people.
I also find it a bit amusing that regardless of how idiotic the responses are, you continue to take the high road and model the very principles outlined in your article. It takes a good man to do that. Good work, keep it up. Not everyone can be patient with people who get their male role modeling from Jersey Shore, and are incapable recognizing when they are using logical fallacies Ad Hominem, and Red Herring are the favorites of your readers.
Then models those ways for his family, friends, and community. And yes, it is extremely important if you want to have a successful loving relationship. As a woman who is very independent and ambitious, and who has married a man who is decidedly less secure, you are spot on James. Points 2, 3, 6,7, and 10, unfortunately, really resonate with me. For the gentlemen fixating on technicalities of the photos… you are letting your insecurities keep you from focusing on the right things.
The honesty one is key! I find this infantalizing. I am a grown woman and not only do I not need you to protect me, but I can can handle whatever it is that you need to say. Great post, it shows women what to look for and men what to strive for. Just about every post was about, controlling, shaming, and using women; the antithesis of what real manliness is all about.
Why does this list only apply to men? Great article… Reminds me of my boyfriend! Hmm… Everyone has their flaws but he has great qualities you spoke about too! I think the criticism of the photos are fair as there is a cognitive dissonance between the messages and photos whether however unconcious. Everyone has some homework to do. Lets try to be the best we can be in this short time we have called life.
They have a 6th sense for it. Being a guy with high self—esteem. Tons of components to this though…how you think of the past, yourself, how congruent your values are with their actions. Someone who has a sense of vision and is uncompromising. Guys like that just draw people to them, and are usually natural leaders, because they really know who they are and what they stand for.
You have hobbies and passions, and a woman is never the center of your reality. No woman wants to be the most important thing in your life anyway. Strong desire to make the world a better place somehow. Being a leader of other men. Inevitably women gravitate towards this kinda guy, because of the qualities it requires, and because of how it plays out it social settings.
If guys are treating you like a leader, or being even slightly deferential, girls notice this. People associate you with positive, fun, good times. This can take work, and might not always be a priority, but it does get easier for someone comfortable as a leader. Same as the article says, and related to leadership: This can be out of your comfort zone, and you might even associate it as a bad thing. You surround yourself with other awesome people. You choose people that have traits that you cultivate…and phase out those whose habits can hold you back.
You might not be the leader right away as you find people you look up to, but you can learn a ton and pick up on good habits. It may suck to hear, but you truly have to stop hanging out with your loser friends if you want to develop.
Someone who absorbs good info and is open to it. Not clouded with bias. Has a rational mind. But perhaps we are thinking of these terms in different ways? But people who really like themselves tend to be annoying, self-centered and obnoxious. I think modesty and having insecurities like everyone else is really what makes people much more likeable and interesting in the long run at least to me. And yea I was just writing these without thinking too much about elaboration or word choice. I was with a girl for a while, as an example, and she had an issue with one of our temp hires because she was bixesual.
As far as being a leader of other men…this is something that I just base on my own experience…as you go along the journey of self-improvement you learn a lot of things that make leadership more natural. Guys like that, who set boundaries and are comfortable saying no, usually have no problem gaining respect. There will always be fears, but at this point, this type of person is constantly looking for the next challenge.
I know guys who are trying to take on new confident behaviors will often act like this, and overcompensate to make up for their insecurities, which is what I mean by polarized, as opposed to the well-rounded idea of the type of slid, established and healthy self-esteem that people respect. I can see what you mean now in that you wanted to uphold your values I also would find it difficult to be with someone who was un-accepting of other people. Learning to compromise is such an important trait in a relationship. But as I said I can tell that we mean the very same thing just in slightly different words.
Thanks again for the reply: Oh, I forgot to add that I highly agree with your point about a strong desire to make the world a better place. Now that is something that is certainly attractive in a man: A friend shared this on fb. Very good article, thank you. Right on the money about respect, insecurities, manipulation, trust and all other points. Appalling to say the least. TheOne, why are you so defensive? The article must have hit a nerve? An effort to strive for an ideal is a good start to make the world a better place.
This is what the article is pointing to. Real man is not a male species born with male sexual organs as you so rudely expressed. It takes manners, etiquette, self-education, respect, kindness and courage to be a Real Man, a Gentleman or a Real Woman, a Lady. Annamorphos, I regret to inform you that you that you and your buddy TheOne are horribly confused.
That semantic concept was established probably 45,, years ago. No need to re-hash this one. Now, this article is about a entirely different more abstract semantic concept. This is a conversation that has carried on for probably a few thousand years or so. You can find various forms of this discussion in most cultures and many works of philosophy.
It is a very subjective concept with no determinate definition. Though, since you mischaracterized the point and purpose of the article and then attacked that mischaracterized version, you did actually commit a logical fallacy. How exactly is that a conversation and open for discussion? The premise of this article is to TELL a man how to be and impose a particular dogmatic view. I agree with the previous commenter in that it is ridiculous to impose one view on what a real man is.
Thus this is not exactly a discussion. I agree with lots of points in the article, but I only follow the doctrine of live and let live and not judge others. And boy, can you believe how surprisingly hard that is to do? I agree with most of the article, and find it annoying that some people think they should be able to tell their partner what to wear. Sure you can suggest things you like on them but they should ultimately wear what makes them feel good about themselves. Especially when they are on YOUR arm! He went so far as to say he would not have sex with me if I wore it.
He makes me feel good about myself in every way, and thinks I look great in everything including my sexy little dress. So, I totally agree with all 10 items on this list. I just have yet to meet one man who encompasses everything. If you are looking for a man this article is describing they walk past you everyday without trying to make a move. You will only find a man like this when you stop placing importance on sex. These men will not try to fix you and will simply avoid you if you try to incorporate them into your dramas.
These men appreciate beauty but cannot be controlled by it. If you have to tell your GF or wife not to wear this or that. They are not on your level to start with. Move up to someone that understands standards. In my life I am calling the shots for my life. If you want to be a part of my life, then accept that you are part of MY life. I am not joining your life. I will love you, respect you and take care of you. However I am the captain my ship and I am solely responsible for it, Plain and simple.
If you are still in the elementary school of relationships you will not understand this and you will be quite irritated by it. Real men have zero tolerance for drama and silly games little girls play. This is a post for the real men who might need a correction of direction. A real man is every man who was ever born. If you live your life as a male and you experience the struggles and bigotries that men experience then you are a real man. I think there is too much of an emphasis on gender roles and stereotypes in our culture. There are too many articles on how-to-be. However, I am learning each day just how important it is to not judge others for their choices and impose my views on them concerning themselves and their lives.
We can only be ourselves, for better or for worse and make choices towards improvement that are according to our own development. I try to live by that example as my own man. Wow a male wrote this article? Is this your way of charming women? Your either extremely whipped or extremely homosexual. A real man should knock you out. My man meets nearly every point on this list. He is nonviolent and non-confrontational by choice, unless given a reason. THAT is sexy, manly, and mature.
Why is a mans happiness a reward? That makes no sense. And make her a priority? If I am able to spend one hour a week with her, she better be happy I chose to spend it with her. This entire article is just another way for the media to control and manipulate men as they do to women.
I am not a slave, I do not do what I am told, I do not think what I am told to think, I am my own man and no woman will control me as I do not seek to control a woman. I like my men to READ. People would be outraged. Our peccadilloes make us interesting. When we realize that, we allow ourselves to be truly happy. Look at European sizes then American sizes. You men are womanizers?
Hey firsttimecaller the men described in this post are non existent. These rantings of yours i. The sock in the corner lead me to believe that you have had some pretty bad relationships in the past. Perhaps the reasons for your failure in the relationship department have more to do with your selfish tendencies, rather than the issues you seem to have with this blog piece. Whatever your issues, these men do still exist. Unfortunately, you are not one of them. This might have a lot to do with your inner hatred of the female species. I think your article brings up a lot of great points; trust is an essential part of a healthy relationship as well as having interests and goals outside of the relationship.
However, I think most if not all of these qualities can be applied to women too. A relationship is a two-way street. Out of curiousty drummer man. I think the cost of living is now so high it takes two people to make a middle class lifestyle. A real man would own a real website. A real man would have stayed in whatever community college instead of making another internet top 10 list. A real man has respect for others and their opinions and is able to respond to others opinions in a better way than to mock them behind a computer screen, period.
Well i feel the points we were informative. I honestly feel that alot if people on here have stated their opinion which they are entitled to an i feel that alot of people have based their answers off of emotion an it should be based off of principle. No on is in control tou work as a team. If you strive to do what your partner needs instead of what you want you will definitely habe healthy relationship.
And if you first and foremost have trust you shouldnt worry about the next man because while hes fantasizing at then end if the night shes going home to you. Sama for elevating the discussion on human relationships. It is good advice for the boys and men among us. A real man is brutish and virile in his most primal sense. This article speaks not of a real man, but a civilized man governed by the principles of the feminest movement. You are confusing the feminized man with qualities of a real gentleman. The above traits are all traits of a gentlemen, ie, respectful, confident, honest.
Gentlemen are never brutish towards a woman. A man can be a real men protector, provider, leader without acting like an animal or being a feminized men. What does feminism have to do with being a civilized man? Last time I checked, feminism especially of the tumblr kind was all about female superiority and male subjugation and shaming. Empathy and maturity, along with love should make a good partner. A brutish virile man in the primal sense? What the fuck is that?
Is it a man swingin his hard cock everywhere he goes, poking women in the ass with it at Starbucks and laughing about it like a pirate??? He understands empathy, compassion, and humility. He knows when to be a brute, and when to be a nurturer. The man you describe is only one part of what being a man is, and this is why we confuse the difference between a man and a gorilla. Not just aggressiveness or gentleness, humility or pride, etc. The pictures that accompany your article are a complete contradiction to your article or parts of it.
As for they all deal with looks, beauty, or are sexual in nature. Nathan used the word are correctly. I think that is what that sentence was trying to say. I have no idea though, looks like the author of that note needs to go back to pre-school! He was saying the images are sexual in nature. Is it that hard to comprehend the English language?
If a real man is seeking a relationship then your looks become one of numerous priorities. In which case, its not the other persons business. But mind games are more direct than the direct approach. You dont get to decide that in order for me to be a real man, i need to be cool all the time. Only im allowed to define me, you bigot. A man can put effort into a relationship if the reward is, in his individual eyes, worthwhile.
Why are you being so critical of his post on this? I agree with him. Please, use spell check, and grow up. This article makes excellent points.
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YOU are the bigot, not to mention a coward. Clearly you don;t know the first thing about how to treat a woman. Some of your concerns, however, are valid. The problem is that any article such as this that speaks generally cannot allow for individualism. Plenty depends on the individual person AND the relationship between the two people. I also think this article has merit, but in my criticism, the underlying premise is troubling.
It excludes the many facets that make up men, as well as how and who they should be in a relationship. A great philosopher once said that we are not one but many things.
Maybe we should not have fixed models to aspire to all the time. Self improvement is important but it does not have to be achieved through idealized doctrines on how-to-be. I see points from both sides here, See. No matter what you are, basic respect must be shown. Treasuring it brings you more respect, abusing it loses it. Same thing goes for trust. This works both ways. The author here means that he wont focus solely on your looks. Sure, looks come into play but it should not take top priority over the inner beauty.
If a person has a rotten heart, no amount of material beauty will get them anywhere. Conflicts will always exist in relationships. The important point is resolving the conflict. There is no relationship in the world that exist without an argument here or there. To all you lovely people reading this, I wish you the best of luck in finding your partner, hopefully my own as well.
I am however in an abusive relationship where there is no respect, affection, love, complicity, friendship, etc. And I, in return have been battling for 15 years to give him all of it. What do I get in return…cruel words. I am nothing to him, it seems. The pain I feel inside is unbearable. If I had someone in my life with even half of those qualities, it would be a dream. Until then, good luck uh, tearing up that pussy or whatever. It is not impossible. A man or woman can make you want to be the best person version without changing who you are.
You will make the changes in yourself, because someone believes in you. The nice guy often gets left behind even if he has all of the qualities discussed above. Start with the basics i. Without a strong foundation based on this, there is no dating, not even the chance to comfortably chat. No mutual understanding means no mutual support though, so keep that foundation strong. Communication is the key there. Only when you have been able to 1. Disrespect the one in your relationship and you WILL go back to discussing trust issues, back to discussing support issues, probably even back to discussing understanding issues in your relationship.
Tell him, her or it that you love him, her or it! I do not understand all the negative comments on this blog. Sheila, I think the negative comments are a result of the men doing the best they know how, then wham!!! Name one real man according to this article, whether real or a fictional tv character… I doubt you will find one. Reblogged this on Ahyiana Angel and commented: I love this list because it is very real and simple.
James Michael Sama, I loved this post. Because there is no reward. Typically, when things go south in a relationship, society will hold him accountable. And it is best done by example. Yes, but remember — as specified in the introduction, this is strictly regarding how men act in relationships. Other areas of life are unrelated to the points here.
Simple common sense directives. What an excellent reminder. The pictures are just pictures too, but nice add. I think people commenting have gotten a little carried away. Our experiences shape our view of the world, and many of these negative posts are a result of internal conflict and influence. You attract what you believe. Strive to be a man of character, and the rest will follow in suit.
Very well put its sad tho that even tho a man sometimes knows and does all these things and yet women still go for the asshole. Put effort into the relationship? This sounds like it was written by someone whose been in none or few serious relationships and lives at home with his parents. The target is high school girls? Are the dudes in the comments slamming the list and calling it a ridiculous female fantasy all high school boys, I wonder? But, he kept his kids clothed and the heat on. He was just fucking stupid and trying to figure out this fuck of a ride called LIFE— like most of us: Now, time for me to make some big mistakes and learn from them.
Sorry to have to introduce you to the difference. Funny, a lot of what defines a real man seems to be how he treats a woman? I see nothing about himself as a person. To reiterate my introduction in the beginning of the article…this is written regarding how a man of quality will act in a relationship towards his significant other.
Real man can cry and be insecure. This kind of a artictle puts down a woman. But once you been married to 10 years. Sounds like the majority of this is a simp beta fish. Not to mention the femi nazis craving this yet have no self respect, dont take care of themselves, and CRAVE attention. Fake eyelashes, fake tits, caked on makeup, hardly act like a woman should. Western women are hopeless and outgunned compared to other foreign women.
A real man immediately recognizes the the embarrassingly wannabe efforts of a substance-less blog written by a half-talented blogger who is incapable of distinguishing tired cliches, simplistic truisms, and internet-fodder memes from originality, substance and taste. Not saying that everything he brought up was wrong—just saying that it had all the complexity, insight, and pitiful pandering of the bad cologne commercials it mimicked. Sorry, but shallow, slipshod writing piques my distaste.
Honestly, James there are a few things that bother me here: A real boy is also someone with XY chromosomes and a penis. Being a boy is not some inferior version of being a man. Both sexes should display it. Additionally, I can definitely understand why your images would offend. While your words suggest gracious behavior though I would argue sometimes superficial , your images decry different standards. Men must have square jaws, rugged good looks, be taller than women, be in perfect physical form, and have a charming, though mysterious personalty.
A good man values your heart more than your looks — looks deteriorate, but a beautiful heart never becomes unappealing. A good man will encourage you to take chances and go beyond the ordinary. A good man will not worship you as the center of the universe, but rather also see the beauty in other people and activities.
A good man will attempt to communicate with you in a way you understand, direct or indirect. He cares most about getting his point across with the utmost sincerity but also utmost love. A good man will be patient enough to forge mutual trust with you and voice his insecurities with you upfront instead of violating your privacy.
A good man is gentle, patient, and sincere. He does not treat you like territory that needs to be defended like an animal would. He will defend you from unwanted attention, but he will never make you feel like HIS property. A good man will treat everyone with respect and will never hold himself as higher or better than others.
A good man will make sure you feel valued and loved for who you are, flaws and all. He will make sure that you will cared for and appreciated for your innate qualities as much or more so than your outer qualities. A good man will see your flaws and encourage you to grow and improve. He will never shame you, but rather inspire you to love deeper, seek beauty, and find truth, making you more hopeful and inclined to see positive improvement, rather than to give up and feel a failure.
A REAL man and his masculinity is not defined by having a relationship with a woman nor how he performs in said relationship. I got engaged today. I bet if a guy made a 10 ways to know a real woman, all hell would break loose on the Internet. For the most part these are just general qualities you look for in friendship. There are roughly 3. What bothers me about this is a man can be all of those things and they still will leave , the question really is a man looking for a real woman, they have has so many blueprints and how we men are suppose to act like , this guy is clearly a simp somebody idolizing mediocre panties , let us men see how do you find a real woman.
The article title states that it pertains to being a man. I believe that the majority of people taking offense to this, are doing so because they feel threatened, or they feel the need to point out every little imperfection. So then you disagree with how I describe how a man should act in a relationship, in this article? Your article is apparently mistitled.
What you described is how a woman would want a man to behave toward her. Not quite the same thing, is it? Why is this not the same thing? However, I feel that if on occasion they intersect and the way that a man thinks he should be ie. Perhaps we can agree on this: Manhood is the business of men, not women, and womanhood is the business of women, not men. A good relationship emerges when the best features of manhood and womanhood interact positively.
Yes — I agree with that. Sorry if I missed it in a previous comment.. Are you aware that there are people in this world that have a severe medical condition which causes them to be that way? My mother for instance is one of those people. She is a truck driver that has bad knees and a bad back from driving the truck but you probably do not care about that case either. I would love to see you say something like to my mother in front of me.
Probably never happen though you are probably just an internet tough guy. I doubt very seriously you would say that to someones face. What do you think. Oh I am sorry you probably do not have a brain. I on the other hand will be happy to buy you a plane ticket to come here and see if you have the nerve to say that to someone I know. I agree with every point here. I also would say though, that almost every point can also be applied to women. I think it very clearly states that he should appreciate MORE than just your looks.
It means there must be more about you that he likes than just your body. If your body is the only attractant, than you will be fighting for the rest of your life to stay young and beautiful to keep him around. Yes, a real man should have a ton of testosterone in his body, but he also should know how to control his primal instincts. The details of my life are quite inconsequential… very well, where do I begin? My father was a relentlessly self-improving boulangerie owner from Belgium with low grade narcolepsy and a penchant for buggery.
My mother was a fifteen year old French prostitute named Chloe with webbed feet. My father would womanize, he would drink. He would make outrageous claims like he invented the question mark. Sometimes he would accuse chestnuts of being lazy. The sort of general malaise that only the genius possess and the insane lament. My childhood was typical. Summers in Rangoon, luge lessons. When I was insolent I was placed in a burlap bag and beaten with reeds- pretty standard really. At the age of twelve I received my first scribe.
At the age of fourteen a Zoroastrian named Vilma ritualistically shaved my testicles. Doubt he even meets 2 of his own criteria. Stop trying to impress people, James. Secondly, do you have anything to comment regarding the actual content or the points I made? Or will you still to unsubstantiated personal attacks? To me, if you are getting this upset over blog…. Stop the bashing, etc…. Why are you so defensive? His blog is spot on.
Good luck finding anyone who meets all that criteria. Men humans in general are flawed from the start, but we do the best we can. While I totally agree with the sentiment. You talk about how he should value more than just your body parts. He should be in love with the person you are. Well, you do notice you put only pictures of beautiful wen and men. Does this really demonstrate it?
I think this is a wonderful post as the author is making good points. I think men should always treat women with respect or anyone for that matter because respect is a great thing. Women recieve an emotional response when they read that because it makes them feel balanced. I look around and see an awful lot of guys having sex, getting married, etc.
Men are more systematic and woman are more empathetic. The author is doing a good job because he is saying what a woman would want to hear, not necessarily what makes sense. Men need to be logical and direct for women bc women are emotional and indirect a lot of the time. When a boy scrapes his knee and he cries, we tell him to be a big boy and stop crying and that he is strong. We as the US enable women to be emotional and disable them from being strong.
Conversely, we enable men to be strong and less emotional. Therefore since we coddle women since early ages they will obviously prefer to hear something that makes them feel good, rather than something that is true. Not every article needs someone to dissect it plainly. Why the heck would you just put this comment out there? This post was totally uncalled for. Please stop trying to outshine the author.
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How about you write an article about your beliefs and watch how frustrating it is when skater kids try to trounce your work. The author is simply expressing their beliefs and trying to turn it into something tangible that people can understand and relate to. Clearly you have become defensive. Which, of course, means that you realize sk8terkid is correct. Why else would his response stir such emotion in you? Try to calm down and realize the truth in both the article and his response and attempt to combine them into one sensible thought. Then you will truly see the message behind this page.
Im sorry jack yeah it was a pretty objective approach. I just saw guys comments with them being all pissed and women arguing back and talking about feelings. I just wanted to bring to light the fact that man and women are so different. Alike too and understanding, as well as logical. But…a woman can never truly understand a man if she is not one.
Man and women just seem so unique and regardless of gender roles and such it feels like we both have the talent to view things in a different perspective. Thats probably a better way to put it. Maybe skater was trying to work it out in his own head. I find that writing out what I think something said makes it make better sense for me. If I write it down, maybe it helps someone else make better sense of it as well.
Either way, both the article and skaters comment were interesting to read.
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I was giving some advice to my friend the other day. He has never been in a real relationship, but I was in one for a while, and I was explaining how he should act and deal with certain situations. This article touches on a lot of what we talked about, and it hits the nail on the head Im a guy by the way. If you actually care about a girl, this is what you should strive for. Believe me, it will make your life easier, and believe me it is realistic.
To touch on what sk8terkid said, there is some true statements followed by wide sweeping, and often untrue, generalizations. Yes, men are usually more analytical and women more emotional. This, according to some studies, is attributed to a wider corpus callosum in women allowing for more communication between hemispheres of the brain. Following the theory that one side of the brain is more analytical and the other more creative, provides the basis for the reason that women are able to add more emotion to their thinking then men do i. This does show a difference in men and women.
It is true that we communicate differently. But this does not mean that women are unable to comprehend anything void of emotion. Talk to any women in a scientific field and you will see a women that can think linearly and logically. Also, we men are capable of adding emotion to our logic; What it all boils down to is taking the time to do what is harder this goes for both men and women , consider these differences and integrate them into your communication and actions.
I saw this article because a man posted it on his wall. This is how men should act, with class, chivalry, and control over their emotions. I also add that another article could be written about women since both sexes should have equal part in contributing to a healthy relationship. I think the author does a good job. This does more to educate men on how to be better boyfriends than it does to inform women as to what they should look for. I know this was long winded, and if you want to say I was defensive, then I guess I was. I happen to know a lot of very strong women who break stereotypes and generalizations made above.
Is that so hard? All bitches want is money and a man with a nice ass car and that is it. If you have to guys in a parking lot and one man that looks sexy and being nice is not going to bet a guy with an expensive care with a ton of money. When you have a grown woman than you act like a grown man, Just like this article! Maybe you should look at yourself obviously real women dont want an untrustworthy judge mental little boy. Matt not all women want that I promise. You might be looking at the wrong ones.
There are beautiful and intelligent women that want a good man and yes they want to be attracted just like men do and want to have monetary security but not all women have to have the 6 pack abs and rich guy. Strange that you say that, considering I have the stronger income and buy my boyfriend gifts on a regular basis.
Please stop being a dim wit, and for the love of god, please learn to spell. If were going to talk about gender roles here, women are often told that they are nothing without their looks and this article encourages the fact that they should find someone who appreciates them for more than that. Your comment is just nothing but sexist generalizations. And yes, generally men and women think differently.