There are a lot worse things that can and maybe will happen. You might find yourself crawling into a deep depression, but not believing they are the cause. You might start controlling the only things you have left, like your eating habits, or lack thereof, just to feel like one thing in the world is still yours.
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And maybe one day that first demon will come back. Let me remind you that physical is not the only type of abuse. Emotionally and mentally abusive relationships are just as bad and sometimes worse than physical ones. Sociopaths and their effects come in all different shapes, sizes, genders and packages. They are the monsters, ready to grab your ankles from under your bed.
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They are the people that unleash the demons in your soul, that you never thought would surface. They make you happy, make your heart race, give you a sense of safety and love, and then rip it all away in one moment. This is all part of the game. A quick word of advice to the readers who may or may not be going through this: It has taken me years to settle with the emotion damage I have gone through and I am still working on it today and every day.
It is not love, believe me.
As mentioned above, setting clear boundaries is paramount in navigating a relationship with a sociopath. Don't waffle from the boundaries and allow deviation from your expectations; if a sociopath recognizes a weakness they will likely capitalize upon it. For example, if you set the boundary of, "If you cheat on me, I will leave you," and then you don't break it off when they cheat, it's likely more cheating will happen in the future. A sociopath has issues within their brains that make them think the way they do and don't always set out to hurt the people around them.
Just as you wouldn't get angry at a person with a sprained ankle who can't run a mile with you, you also shouldn't be angry at a sociopath's behavior when they do things characteristic to sociopaths. You simply can't expect reasonable behavior from someone who's brain compels them to be unreasonable. This doesn't mean you have to accept abuse, but it does mean you should understand your sociopathic partner's behavior won't always be "normal.
If you are still in a relationship with the sociopath, you may believe you love him and that he can change. You may think back to the beginning of the relationship when he was very charming and enjoyable to be around. Many people stay with sociopaths in the hopes that they can get back to that honeymoon phase. Nothing you say or do can change your partner, and it is not your job to do so.
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This is her personality and it is her responsibility to seek treatment. There are treatments for this disorder, but typically those who have it are unlikely to seek professional help. For those that do decide to seek help, they are likely to go because of a secondary issue such as substance abuse or court-mandated therapy after breaking the law. Personality disorders cannot be treated with medication. However, many sociopaths experience comorbid disorders, such as depression and anxiety, that can be treated with medications. It can be difficult and dangerous to end a relationship with a sociopath.
He may become desperate and try to convince you that you are doing the wrong thing. When you don't give in, he may begin to show his hostility through physical violence or other manipulative or dangerous tactics.
Why victims stay in the relationship with the sociopath
Without love, they are powerless. They need your love to manipulate. He will do whatever it takes to get you to love him and when that happens, the next phase of manipulation starts; the most dangerous phase. This is SO important to know and understand. No matter what you do, try, or say, he will never, ever change. You can shower him with love. You can try to wish it away. You can pray it away.
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You can overcompensate to prove your love. You can attempt to ignore it and focus on the positives. Nothing, and I mean nothing, will change it.
Will anything you do be appreciated? Why would he appreciate someone for something that he believe he was entitled to receive? To a Sociopath, nothing matters besides getting what they want. Want to know the truth? Well, you never well. Sociopaths will lie until they turn blue in the face, and then continue to lie.
Then, there are the BIG things. For instance, my ex told me when we started dating that he was divorced and had been for over a year.